Going through a divorce is a major change in a person’s life. It can take a large toll on one’s emotional wellbeing especially once the divorce proceedings have commenced. There are a number of steps that must be taken and decisions that must be made during a divorce. One of the first decisions, includes determining who will continue living in the former family home and who will have to move out and obtain their own residence. This decision can sometimes be very difficult where neither person wants to leave and particular where minor children are involved.
In recent years, there has been a new trend where the parties decide to enter into a “nesting” arrangement. The general idea of a nesting arrangement is that the parties take turns living in the home such that they alternate who has to live outside the home on a certain day/week. In most cases, this sort of arrangement is adopted where there are young children in the family. The reason some parents choose to agree to a nesting arrangement is they do not want to have to put their children through further changes by requiring them to shuttle back and forth between two separate homes. Rather, it puts the responsibility on the parents to shuttle themselves between residences. Many parents who incorporate a nesting arrangement view the schedule as beneficial because it allows the children to maintain stability in their life during a time where their family is going through significant changes. They can come home to their family home where all of their belongings are and where they are most comfortable and familiar. Some might ask where the other parent goes when it is not their turn to stay in the former family home. This varies from case to case. Some choose to stay with a family member or friends while others might choose to obtain a separate apartment/home even though they might only live there half of the time.
While some parents view the nesting arrangement as a great solution to a somewhat difficult problem, others find it to be too complicated. For example, if a case is particularly hostile or involves a high level of distrust, a nesting arrangement might not be the best option. It can open the door to the parents arguing if they encounter one another on a day where it is time to “switch”. It can also lead to accusations of one parent “snooping” or damaging items while the other parent is out of the home. It is for this reason that a nesting arrangement truly is not for everyone.
Here are Mello & Pickering, LLP, with our combined 35 years of experience in family law, we have helped guide several clients through cases where a nesting arrangement is discussed and sometimes implemented. Our experience allows us to help ensure that you and your family receive the highest quality service possible throughout your divorce and/or custody/visitation case. Call our office for your free 20-minute phone consultation.